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Happy Parenting: Authority Means Consistency

Parenting is the toughest job in the world and some struggle to enjoy their role as parents. Many parents feel they have failed trying to discipline their children. The fact that you need to discipline your kids does not mean you need to become a control-freak or a tyrant. Being an authoritative parent means being consistent regarding your decisions, then some firmly embedded habits can be changed in a short time.

Unrealistic Expectations

Sometimes parents have expectations their kids cannot meet. You need to let kids be kids. They need to be allowed to make mistakes and make messes. At their early age, typical kid behavior includes dropping things, spilling, making messes, and lots more. You have to make sure not to punish your child’s typical behavior. Be realistic. However, creating boundaries that are consistent will help your kid learn the difference between good and bad behavior. Early parenting years are testing times for all parents. We all fail, especially when we set high standards for ourselves.

Here are some valuable and effective tips for parents who want to be in charge:

Avoid Overusing Words like ”Stop” or “No”

Some words lose their meaning when repeated too often. If you are yelling out words like “Don’t”, “Stop” or “No”, they will gradually lose their meaning and become ineffective. Instead, use alternatives. You can say: “You are not allowed to color on the walls. We can color on the paper and create a beautiful drawing!”

Instead of Questions, Use Statements

Asking your children questions before you act is a habit that gives them a certain power you do not want them to have. Instead, use statements because the decision to carry out the action belongs to the parents and not their kids. Avoid questions like: “Do you want to go to bed?” Instead, you can say: “It’s a bedtime. Who is going to read you a story, Mum or Dad?”

Making Things Fun

Getting your children to do something they don’t want can be very frustrating. But, making something sound like fun and like a game will distract their attention and they will forget to scream and cry while putting their shoes on or having a bath.

Avoid Long Explanations

When you say “No candy before dinner” or “It’s a bedtime” your message is clear and final. Skip a long explanation about how the candy will spoil their appetite or how sleep is necessary for being well rested for tomorrow’s activities. You do not want to give your child a room to question your authority.

 

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